1. Masturbation doesn't have the health benefits that sex does.
"It appears that not all orgasms are created
equally," says Tobias S. Köhler, MD, MPH, an associate professor at
Southern Illinois University School of Medicine in Springfield.
Study after study shows that intercourse has all sorts of benefits for men -- for your blood pressure, heart and prostate health, pain, and more. You'd think that masturbation would, too. But it doesn't.
Why would it make a difference whether you ejaculate during sex or on your own? No one's sure. But your body seems to respond differently. Even the makeup of semen is different if you masturbate instead of having sex.
Still, does it really matter? Have you honestly been
masturbating all these years only because you wanted to boost your
prostate health? Didn't think so.
2. Masturbation is not risk-free.
Sure, it's low-risk. It's the safest form of sex possible. No one ever caught an STD from himself or made himself pregnant. But like other low-risk activities (chewing, walking), it still has some risks.
Frequent or rough masturbation can cause minor skin irritation. Forcefully bending an erect penis can rupture the chambers that fill with blood, a rare but gruesome condition called penile fracture.
Köhler has seen guys with it after vigorous masturbation. "Afterward, the penis looks like an eggplant," he says. "It's purple and swollen." Most men need surgery to repair it.
3. There's no "normal" amount of masturbation.
Guys can get hung up on whether they masturbate too
much. But it's not how many times you masturbate in a week (or day) that
really matters, says Logan Levkoff, PhD, a sexologist and sex educator.
It's how it fits into your life.
If you masturbate many times a day and have a healthy, satisfying life, good for you. But if you masturbate many times a day and you're missing work or giving up on sex with your partner because of it, consider seeing a sex therapist.
Even then, there's nothing specific about
masturbation that's the problem. Compulsive masturbation is like any
behavior that disrupts your life -- whether it's compulsively playing
poker or buying Beanie Babies on eBay.
4. Masturbating doesn't reflect on your relationship.
Levkoff says the most damaging myth about male masturbation is that it's a sign something is wrong in your relationship.
The fact is that most guys masturbate. They
masturbate if they're single, in a bad relationship, or in a great
relationship. It's just something they do that has nothing to do with
their partners.
Masturbation isn't only about sex, Levkoff says. For many, it's a routine way of relieving stress, clearing your head before work, or going to sleep.
5. Masturbation is almost certainly good for your sex life.
Masturbation can help your sex life, since it's how
guys learn what they like during sex. "I think women would be more
satisfied sexually in their relationships if they masturbated as much as men do," Levkoff says.
Are there exceptions? Some guys do get so hooked on a
certain amount of pressure during masturbation or the stimulation of
porn that they can't perform with a partner, says Ian Kerner, PhD, a sex
therapist and author of She Comes First.
Still, Kerner says those guys are the exception.
"For the vast majority of men, masturbation is a healthy thing," he
says. "I'm usually more concerned about a guy who's stopped masturbating
-- which can be a sign of anxiety or health problems -- than a guy who's doing it regularly."
